John thinks that my post was unfair and that I am dragging other people into our problems. This is the response he sent me detailing all the ways I ruined our marriage. I have never wanted to be one sided, so I thought it was only fair that his response gets it's own forum as well. I have left it exactly as written, except for censoring some words and names.
Ellyn,
Did you really not think i would read that blog????? Would you like me to post a response on your blog down to the penny the money you have received from me? Or write on there what REALLY happened to our failed marriage???? Ellyn, just because you are pregnant does not give you the right to drag people into our problems that have NOTHING to do with OUR PROBLEMS. You got so mad at me by lying by omission.....well you need to look into the mirror! You are lying to all those people and you know it. The amount of money I have given has not been enough yes i know but you make me out to be some sort of lazy mother f*****r who does nothing and is just f*****g around on the side sitting on my ass all day and collecting unemployment. That post was a bad move and yes i cannot make you take it down but really I do not care. I am mad that you keep bringing (name removed) up when she has nothing to do with the years of abuse from your mother and YOU! The years of me being kicked in the face about my ideas and thoughts about life. How I was not allowed to do certain things but YOU were always allowed to do whatever you please, and your mother getting to take our money and our vehicles to go get wasted and drive around in them....and god f*****g forbid that i question you because you instantly got your mother involved screaming and yelling at me. Ellyn, I was miserable....and it stayed that way and I hoped it would change but it never did. Don't you ever tell me you did not see it coming because you forced this, you forced all of it! Granted i did not do everything right but usually NEVER had the chance to do ANYTHING, unless my two owners said it was OK (you and your mother). You knew what you were doing...don't even act like it was any different than what I just explained. You and your crazy ass mother thought i was deaf as sh*t....but just so you know I ALWAYS heard everything. The conversations about in the even of a divorce and what you two will do.... I am STILL to this f*****g day working my ass off at TWO f*****g jobs like i have been doing for the past two and a half years. Tell your friends that why don't you. Then tell them that 90% of the time I cannot see the kids is cause i work from 8am to 12am almost EVERYDAY. then have the questions rolling in to you about what your doing to support our kids? No matter what you say beating on someone when you are pissed off will NEVER EVER be OK with any judge. So you will never win that argument.
As for the house, you are not stupid Ellyn, but i almost think sometimes that you are. You have to be shitting me if you think that 900 a month is a "steal"....read the damn contract...that contract would f**k me for life if we MISSED ONE payment. it even says we would pay more money per month after the grace period ended. So instead of 1900 a month it would be around 2400, that sounds affordable Ellyn. Not to mention I AM NOT MAKING THE 80 to 90K that i used to make...its called a recession....didnt you get the damn memo?????????????????????????????????/
Did you really not think i would read that blog????? Would you like me to post a response on your blog down to the penny the money you have received from me? Or write on there what REALLY happened to our failed marriage???? Ellyn, just because you are pregnant does not give you the right to drag people into our problems that have NOTHING to do with OUR PROBLEMS. You got so mad at me by lying by omission.....well you need to look into the mirror! You are lying to all those people and you know it. The amount of money I have given has not been enough yes i know but you make me out to be some sort of lazy mother f*****r who does nothing and is just f*****g around on the side sitting on my ass all day and collecting unemployment. That post was a bad move and yes i cannot make you take it down but really I do not care. I am mad that you keep bringing (name removed) up when she has nothing to do with the years of abuse from your mother and YOU! The years of me being kicked in the face about my ideas and thoughts about life. How I was not allowed to do certain things but YOU were always allowed to do whatever you please, and your mother getting to take our money and our vehicles to go get wasted and drive around in them....and god f*****g forbid that i question you because you instantly got your mother involved screaming and yelling at me. Ellyn, I was miserable....and it stayed that way and I hoped it would change but it never did. Don't you ever tell me you did not see it coming because you forced this, you forced all of it! Granted i did not do everything right but usually NEVER had the chance to do ANYTHING, unless my two owners said it was OK (you and your mother). You knew what you were doing...don't even act like it was any different than what I just explained. You and your crazy ass mother thought i was deaf as sh*t....but just so you know I ALWAYS heard everything. The conversations about in the even of a divorce and what you two will do.... I am STILL to this f*****g day working my ass off at TWO f*****g jobs like i have been doing for the past two and a half years. Tell your friends that why don't you. Then tell them that 90% of the time I cannot see the kids is cause i work from 8am to 12am almost EVERYDAY. then have the questions rolling in to you about what your doing to support our kids? No matter what you say beating on someone when you are pissed off will NEVER EVER be OK with any judge. So you will never win that argument.
As for the house, you are not stupid Ellyn, but i almost think sometimes that you are. You have to be shitting me if you think that 900 a month is a "steal"....read the damn contract...that contract would f**k me for life if we MISSED ONE payment. it even says we would pay more money per month after the grace period ended. So instead of 1900 a month it would be around 2400, that sounds affordable Ellyn. Not to mention I AM NOT MAKING THE 80 to 90K that i used to make...its called a recession....didnt you get the damn memo??????????????????????????
I am done with this Ellyn, if I do NOTHING for you and those kids I will take away barproducts money and you will have NOTHING.....you really think that you have all the options in this divorce...but honestly if I wanted to things could get really ugly and I do not want that...but it seems that you do for some f****d up reason. I do not want to hear you cry about sh*t again....i will pay what I can when i can. and If you are still going to be mean to (name removed), me, or any of my friends, OR if i see another blog regarding my stupid friends at chilis or (name removed)... then you will have to deal with the consequences, and that will not be pretty. Here i am AGAIN wasting my f*****g time AT work writing you.
P.S. no... the idea of us not talking was your idea and at first i thought it was stupid...now its going to happen. You will receive an email from me concerning my schedule and updates on anything important. You need to email me your schedule and the kids schedule, weekly.
P.S. no... the idea of us not talking was your idea and at first i thought it was stupid...now its going to happen. You will receive an email from me concerning my schedule and updates on anything important. You need to email me your schedule and the kids schedule, weekly.
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Just for the record, I have gone out of my way never to identify anyone he's involved with by name, and have never talked about any of his friends. I have also never been "mean" to her.
Also, I have always said that John works two jobs, and that he sees the kids, and that he gives us the money he says he can afford to give us. My post today was saying that he has chosen not to pay the mortgage. I didn't mention any other bills at all. No, I don't bring in income, so I guess with that logic I'm not doing anything to support our kids.
As far as the other allegations go, you'll notice he's not taking any responsibility for anything at all and basically saying he had no choice but to leave. I have written extensively about how I have made mistakes. Not everything he wrote in this email is true by a long shot, but since it's his side of the story I'm not going to pick it apart.
I did want this to be posted, though, mostly because of the threatening feel to the last paragraph and the "consequences" I will have to deal with.
