John's love language and my love language are sooo different...it can be really hard for us to connect sometimes because we always do things we would personally like instead of things the other person would like. When you add that to the fact that we almost never see each other because of his second job and my insand schedule with the kids, you can get one very disconnected couple! We have to work hard to decompress enough to be nice to each other again, which is why I am working hard to learn to make him feel like I love and cherish him, instead of just saying the words.
See you all tomorrow for Not Me! Monday!
We are up and at em and heading out to church this morning, and I've been thinking. I have been reading Marriage without Regrets, and in it, they talk about different kinds of love, one being agape love, the unconditional love God has for us and that we should have for our spouse...the kind that keeps on trucking through good times and bad.
John and I have been talking a lot about making love an action word, a verb...a choice, not a feeling, and I want to hear from you guys! How do you make love a verb every day? How do you, in whatever season of life you're in, make the choice to love your spouse?
See you soon!
See you all tomorrow for Not Me! Monday!
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We are up and at em and heading out to church this morning, and I've been thinking. I have been reading Marriage without Regrets, and in it, they talk about different kinds of love, one being agape love, the unconditional love God has for us and that we should have for our spouse...the kind that keeps on trucking through good times and bad.
John and I have been talking a lot about making love an action word, a verb...a choice, not a feeling, and I want to hear from you guys! How do you make love a verb every day? How do you, in whatever season of life you're in, make the choice to love your spouse?
See you soon!
6 comments:
For me, it's making an effort to do something especially sweet and nice when I least feel like being loving towards my husband. Anyone can be affectionate and caring when things are going well!
OK. I'll say it. For my husband, it'd be sex. Sex really doesn't do it for me. I'd prefer a really clean and organized house, as well as a kitchen stocked with healthy food.
being the first to be kind... Not waiting for the other to be first. And not replaying wrongs in my head as that is a recipe for bitterness. Walking through a lot of this recently.
For me, it is letting go of my children a little, and letting him "father" them without my input (which is sooooo hard), Forgiving when it is the absolute last thing I want to do, and realizing I am responsible for my own attitude. I, like you, married a man that has a completely different love language. In fact, we are indeed polar opposites. This makes for an extra set of struggles, but joys, as well.
I have been making love an action word on purpose for about 6 weeks now. I am 8 months pregnant and my husband, a plant electrician, has been working various spring "turn-arounds" for the last 2 months. This means 70 to 80 hours a week of work away from home in addition to night school 2 nights a week. Making love an action word means me getting my huge pregnant self up @ 4am with him to make him breakfast and pack a lunch for him and have a prayer time before he leaves for work. It also means keeping my toddler up extra special late some evenings just so she can see her daddy. Not bragging on myself as this is an every day diciplinary effort - but it is something i CAN do so i do it.
a recent reader in tx.
I just found your blog today...the interesting thing is that I was talking about this just on Sunday at church. My DH and I teach the College and Career class at our church. He was going to be out of town and I was just going to show one of those awesome Rob Bell videos when I very clearly heard God say to me that someone in that class needed to hear about Love. Specifically about making Love a verb, not a noun. About how it is a choice, not something you fall in and out of. Good to know I am listening on the right frequency! LOL Also, I have a Seth as well! He is 4 years old. Your blog is great! Keep it up!
Blessings!
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