Friday, March 21, 2008

Not a real baby.







I heard through the grapevine today that someone didn't understand why I was so upset around the anniversary of Eli's death. It's not, she said, as if he were a "real baby," or anything.


I really have no words for that, so I just wanted to post a picture of my son, who was somehow not real because he never got to smile at us, or laugh, or crawl. Sometimes you think the people with kids would be the most sensitive, but I've actually found they're the ones who get the most defensive. If they can admit my son was healthy and real and he still died, then nothing is safe.




6 comments:

Jessi Dawn said...

Found you from MckMama's blog; thought I'd look around a little. Read this post and just had to say.. Your very real baby is beautiful. What a beautiful baby. I am sorry for your loss; may God continue to heal your hearts.
Blessings,
Jess

Chriseedee said...

I also just found your blog through MckMama. How cruel can anyone be? Your son is so beautiful and so real. God bless you each day as you relive his presence in your life. Your family is beautiful!

Jess said...

I also just found you from MckMama’s blog. I figured I’d start from the beginning of your blog and get to know your family a little better. After reading this post I think my jaw just hit the floor. I can’t believe anyone would say something like that. Your adorable son is very real regardless how long or short his life on earth was. You have one amazing guardian angel watching over you and your family. Eli looks precious and I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.

Jessica Huseby
Fargo, ND

Francesca said...

I would just like to say that i am so very sorry for your loss. Your baby Eli is beautiful and i cannmot begin to imagine how devastating losing him was.
God Bless you and your family and know that Eli is happy, and smiling and looking down on you guys
xxx

Beverly said...

Found you through Mckmamma. I also have an Eli and very loud and loving almost 9 year old. I just wanted to send some love your way. You son was and is very much a real baby. A very beautiful real baby.

natalie eve said...

El ~ found your blog through a friends. I chose to read about your son Eli because my firstborn, Allen Michael, was born stillborn at almost 37 weeks. He would have been 3 this past November. I read this post and I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. I have had similar experiences and often worry (which is ridiculous) that people will think that about Allen Michael when I talk about him. And I do, talk about him, all the time. My friends have heard the same stories so often - recollections of his white blonde hair & eyelashes, how God used a song from Selah right before I had to push to give me his incredible peace & strength, how I wish I would have looked at every part of him at least once more. Here is the link to the post on my blog on what would have been his 3rd birthday. http://threeheartscreated.blogspot.com/2008/11/three-years-ago.html
Take a look - he was very real, very beautiful. Just like your Eli. I'm glad that our babies are in Heaven together.
In Christ Alone ~ Natalie Eve

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